Ep018: Shar Jones & Chad Stephens – Understanding Addiction: Am I Enabling? (Part 1 of 2)
This is the first episode of a 6 part mini-series with Chad, a deep dive into some of the core questions and challenges surrounding addiction in some families.
Be sure to tune into Part 2 for an exciting announcement you won’t want to miss!!
So, what is enabling?
As parents, we always want to do what’s best for our children. It’s always been that way.
But, are we helping or are we enabling? Are we making it easy for them to make poor or good choices? Ask yourself, “How can I enable my child to do the right thing?”
First, it’s important to recognize the signs and beware of the “land mines.” Try not to get caught up in the addict’s timeline and if needed, take a “time out” for yourself so you can get some support.
It can be helpful to prepare in advance for the difficult conversations and go into them with some “go to” phrases. Watch for the manipulation, and remember saying “No” is okay, it doesn’t mean you are being a bad parent.
If you have questions or topics you’d like Chad and I to discuss on future episodes, please send your suggestions to Shar@BeyondHopeRadio.com.
Chad works in Admissions and Outreach at Habilitat, Inc. – a long-term (2-year) residential addiction treatment and vocational training program in Hawaii. He’s been in Hawaii for the past 7 years, where he initially moved to the islands to treat his heroin addiction through Habilitat’s program. Habilitat gave Chad a life worth living.
He enjoys outdoor activities, is an active member of a local Rotary Club, serves on the board of Aloha United Ways – Society of Young Leaders, and enjoys the occasional trip to California to visit family and friends.
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